Have you ever struggled to acknowledge that you don’t know something because you feared the repercussions? This trauma response often stems from lessons learned in early development. Today on The Biology of Trauma, Bette Lamont joins us from the NeuroDevelopmental Movement to discuss how trauma plays a role in children’s development out of the fear of the repercussions of not knowing.
Bette has worked with traumatized children for over 35 years. Her work started with helping children with learning disabilities. But, as she noticed the patterns in her clients, she refocused her career on discovering how to support children before they become traumatized. Bette is a certified counselor, teacher, therapist, and parent herself. In this episode, she describes how culture has created a mass of developmental issues in young children simply by removing the primary caregiver before the child is even biologically capable of processing separation.
It is becoming more and more typical for children to be diagnosed with severe learning impediments, emotional problems, and attention disorders. But just because these are now typical does not mean they are natural. Babies require safety in the first three years of life to learn and love; the mothers’ nervous system primarily informs that sense of security. As parents are forced to return to work as early as 12 months, children are hardly given a fighting chance to develop and are often expected to build resilience to meet the needs of their caretakers.
It is possible to heal at any age. Learning why these things happen in the first place is a step toward healing. By rebuilding trust and safety in children and adults, it is possible to heal the deep wounds of trauma.
- [5:00] The effects of separation from our mother
- [8:10] How implicit memory of traumatic overwhelm programs a dysregulated nervous system
- [10:45] A child will experience shock if they are placed into childcare before 30 months of age
- [15:40] The surprising hormone that is vital to learning
- [17:10] Children who feel safe have plenty of oxytocin to help them love, cuddle, and learn
- [22:45] Eye contact in babies affects the development of empathy, sympathy, and compassion
- [24:00] Why trauma can make it difficult to say, “I don’t know”
- [25:00] “I don’t know” means to be curious and vulnerable, which is the enemy of insecurity
- [26:30] Children at the age of 7-9 tend to become rigid in their knowledge out of fear of rejection
- [27:00] Why movement needs to be utilized for attachment trauma
- [28:25] Nature tells us that babies need to be intimately supported throughout the first three years
- [29:30] Thrusting from crawling establishes force vectors that relate the child to gravity
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